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The thesis of The Happiness Advantage is that most people have the happiness formula in reverse. Society has instilled the belief at an early age that happiness is a reward for success. But positive psychology research suggests that success is the effect, not the cause of happiness. In other words, happiness creates success rather than the other way around. The more positive you feel about anything, the better your performance of it will be.
While the idea of the benefits of a positive mental attitude is not new—if you define positivity as feeling happy about doing something, loving the act of engaging with it—what is novel is that cultivating happiness is not just a good philosophy but a science-based fact. Researchers found happy people were more successful than their unhappy counterparts. Another book that fully supports this concept, but comes at it from a different perspective is Drive.
Success is not only about grit and determination, but it’s also about adopting a positive perspective on something. Genuinely backing up your point of view with a feeling of happiness pays handsome dividends. You’re not focusing on faking it until you make it--you’re focusing on loving doing it. The book GRIT talks both about determination and passion. It’s very important to have both, but hard to find.
Achor guides the reader through seven principles to practice the science of happiness:
The First Principle Is the Happiness Advantage: You can acquire a happier brain by retraining it. A happier brain performs better than a neutral or a negative one. You can retrain your brain through meditation, positive expectancy, practicing kindness, thinking positively about the world, exercising regularly, practicing financial generosity, spending more on experiences than on things, and developing your natural strengths. Another great book about this is Stumbling On Happiness.
The Second Principle Is the Fulcrum and the Lever: The world is fluid, not fixed. Reality shifts and changes. It is relative. So when learning how to do something, train yourself to have a growth mindset. Give up any tendency to have a fixed, or rigid, mindset. This is again supported by the book Be Fearless.
The Third Principle Is the Tetris Effect: If you play Tetris for a few hours, when you look up from the game, you initially see the surrounding scenes around you as an arrangement of Tetris blocks. You can take advantage of your mind’s nature to make patterns by training your brain to notice the positive patterns in any situation.
Train your brain to be happier, to be more grateful, and to be more optimistic. Initially, this will be difficult, but after sufficient conscious practice, you’ll do it automatically.
The Fourth Principle Is Falling Up: After a failure, try to learn the lesson you learned from your mistakes. Instead of falling down after a mishap or calamity, you’ll start falling up. In the long run, your failure will have given you invaluable insights on how to be more successful.
So your task after a failure is not to focus on the fall, but to focus on how to get back up. Adversity becomes your friend rather than your enemy, a blessing rather than a curse, a step forward rather than a step back. The ultimate book one this subject is Antifragile.
The Fifth Principle Is the Zorro Circle: Like the fictional masked vigilante Zorro, you have to circle around your success. You can do this by focusing on a small goal, celebrating it, and then moving on to a slightly bigger goal. As you continue in this way, you’ll continually achieve bigger, more impressive goals.
If you choose a large goal at the outset, you are most likely to feel intimidated by the enormity of the task and give up any hope of ever reaching it - but if you choose a small goal, it will seem far more manageable. In short, start small, build up your confidence, and then keep increasing the size of your goals. A lesser known, but excellent book that dives into this topic very well is Make it Happen Before Lunch.
The Sixth Principle Is the “20 Second Rule”: We do not have as much willpower as we like to believe. Over the course of the day, it gradually gets depleted because we get mentally exhausted and physically worn out.
So, don’t focus on improving your willpower, focus on improving your habits. Good habits require less energy to activate and the better you are at building a habit, the easier it will be to sustain the actions you need to achieve your goal. The book The ONE Thing shares several examples of how to improve willpower, but also how it affects the quality of our work. It’s a highly recommended, wonderful read.
The Seventh Principle Is Social Investment: The more challenging your life or your environment becomes, the more inclined you are to isolate yourself and limit your social engagements. Successful people fight this natural inclination of withdrawal. They cultivate great relationships with family members, colleagues, and friends, and use the energy from these positive interactions to propel their lives forward. While it’s easy to foster positive relationships when things are going well for you, it’s essential to sustain them when facing tough times.
If this book sounds interesting you would also enjoy The Workplace Engagement Solution by David Harder. If worrying is keeping you from happiness, you would enjoy How To Stop Worrying And Start Living.